My children have a very strict aversion to simple things that would make a big difference in my disposition...and by extension, their life! ....they just don't 'get-it'. After years of talking about this, the carelessness continues. It can be as simple as quietly turning a doorknob before closing a door (like after a 5:00 am shower) or even simpler, closing a freezer door before leaving the kitchen for the night. or...my even lower expectation of just closing an outside door or turning off all the lights and TV?.... Each night I find myself like a jail warden - patrolling the grounds - confirming a lock-down for the night. Mastering these tasks for them, is apparently a difficult skill in their world. Is it carelessness, being inconsiderate or just plain stupidity?..... probably all three!
For as long as I can recall 'doors' have always been a sacred divide for lots of reasons. Occasionally I lock my bedroom door (ok, all the time) ....doors are important around here! A few years ago my son had a slamming phase that began with first 'losing' the knob (I took it off) after finding a hole in the wall from a spirited 'open' with further sanctions shortly after that of..... physically removing the door for 2 years! this was after the door frame started to go crooked on me. Finally, the slamming stopped- can we say... slow learner? My daughter on the other hand, as I have told her time and time again.... is going to get her a** kicked if and when she ever has a roommate or lives in a dorm where she loudly closes doors. That roommate will also need a hazmat suit...but that's another story. :D